Communication is one of the tenets of a healthy relationship, but it’s quite sad that a lot of people are not communicating the right way. The issue of texting versus talking is one of the biggest pitfalls in relationships. A lot of us have comfortably replaced taking with texting, forgetting that they play different roles.

Texting has become a primary mode of communication in relationships because it is convenient. It is both a good thing and a bad thing. It can help to develop a strong connection in your relationship, but it’s bad if you ditch talking for texting. There is a problem when you feel comfortable with texting alone.

Talking helps to understand true feelings. You can easily detect how a person feels from the rise and fall of their tone. Anyone can text behind a phone due to loneliness or boredom, but talking to someone in person about your real feelings and fears is different.

Texting versus Talking: When to Text

·       You can text your partner when you want to pass a light compliment.

·       Text when you are in a noisy place, meeting, or where the other person can’t talk.

·       Text when you are communicating about logistics (i.e., where to meet, time, or when you are running late).

·       Text when you want to share a photo.

When to Talk

·       Call or talk in person when you are angry or want to tender an apology.

·       Call or talk in person when you want to say an appreciation or express your love for them.

·       Call or talk in person about how much you miss them.

·       Call or talk in person when you want to have a serious conversation.

Why You Should Do More of Talking than Texting

Talking feels more real than texting. You know what they sound like. You know if they have a funny accent. Talking feels more human, while texting feels robotic. There are lots of unusual mistakes that can go unnoticed between spellcheck and Siri while texting.

Texting is a horrible mode to settle a conflict. Texting is hostile to conflict resolution. Never do it. Words can be misinterpreted when we can’t hear the tone of the other person’s voice. Texting is more accusatory, because it doesn’t have a tone. The other person may read your text according to their mood, and anger escalates from that. If you want to resolve conflicts with your partner, you should either call them or meet up in person.

Talking strengthens connection. You can build a great connection and vibe through talking rather than texting. Texting can be monotonous and stale after a while, but there is dynamism in talking. The sound of chuckles and giggles can help you build a stronger connection. Enough of “LOL.”

Texting is not a tool for long conversations. It’s wrong to hold a long conversation through texts. Sending long texts can be annoying to the person at the receiving end. Consider if they do not have so much time to attend to your lengthy text. The best way to have long conversations is through talking. Meet up or call them rather than give them an epistle to read.

Conclusively, we have to stop dumbing down our relationship by hiding behind the screen. We should learn to talk more.